I have a lovely couple of friends who, for good or ill, are struggling with their weight. I struggle with them because I don't know how to encourage or support them properly. On one level, I do want to be of assistance to them; on the other, I know that they have to come to this realization themselves and I can't substitute my will for theirs. But it saddens and troubles me nonetheless. In terms of concrete action, I think I know what I need to do.
One of my friends, who is a friend of Bill W., once remarked that if someone isn't convinced that they need to stop drinking, they need to continue drinking. I think it's the same here. I can't convince them to change their eating and exercise habits; so they need to keep eating and not doing what is needed. Then eventually that wake up call, probably of a cardiac nature, will have to suffice.
I almost changed my plans for Easter because of this but decided not to. They have to decide what to do with the Easter baskets when they arrive.
UPDATE: Got hit with divine inspiration over the weekend. Came up with a positive solution to the question at hand. We are going to misdirect in the hopes of playing to a potential strength rather than confronting directly a weakness. I'll update as warranted.